May | You Dwell In The Heart

This ceremony aimed simply to hold a space for pain and heartbreak, whatever life event or situation was connected to the experience of pain. Amy and Alison were moved by a note left in the Dana Box at the end of the ceremony that read “Thank you for allowing us to hurt here tonight”. We cannot always fix pain, but we can be together with it and sometimes holding space is what is most needed, allowing us to be honest and spacious in our experience. To create a sense of togetherness around the experience of human pain we created a ritual of each tearing a piece off a huge painted anatomical human heart, writing on that chunk the things that connect us with pain, personally and/or communally, and then rebuilding another heart with our chunks of life experience.

The following resources were gratefully shared at the OneLight Gathering on Friday 11th May 2018 at London's monthly Interfaith Ceremony, generously hosted at Notting Hill's Essex Unitarian Church.



For Courage

When the light around you lessens
And your thoughts darken until
Your body feels fear turn
Cold as a stone inside

When you find yourself bereft
Of any belief in yourself
And all you unknowingly
Leaned on has fallen

When one voice commands
Your whole heart,
And it is raven dark,
Steady yourself and see
That is is your own thinking
That darkens your world

Search and you will find
A diamond-thought of light,
Know that you are not alone
And that this darkness has purpose

Gradually it will school your eyes
To find the one gift your life requires
Hidden within this night-corner.
Invoke the learning
Of every suffering
You have suffered.

Close your eyes
Gather all the kindling
About your heart
To create one spark.
That is all you need
To nourish the flame
That will cleanse the dark
Of its weight of festered fear.

A new confidence will come alive
To urge you towards higher ground
Where your imagination
Will learn to engage difficulty
As its most rewarding threshold!

by John O’ Donohue